How to train with a REAL Shaolin martial monk, in a REAL temple or monastery?

I have looked all over the internet. One of the few 34th generation Monk i can find teaches in NYC, although is close to me as i live in Machusetts.. its cles.. not a live and train temple. Same goes for every other true Shaolin Kung Fu school, they are all like the schools here that teach anything else, with MUCH skeptisizm that true Shaolin Kung Fu and Principles are taught in those schools.. I believe Shi Yan Ming in NYC is one of the few who teaches the real thing.. but weekly cl schedules.. not a monastery. The real temple in China has become a tourist attraction from what i've read and seen, and although training goes on there, being American i don't think I can just show up and learn... at least not without a lot of money. I am looking for the TRUE lifestyle.. not cles a few days a week.. with tuition and level systems... this country is full of Karate cles.. true Shaolin Kung Fu seems extremely rare... I want to study Buddhism, Chi Gong, and true Gung Fu, i want to CHANGE MY LIFE drastically... and the kung fu cles i have taken aren't going to do it. Where can i find a real Shaolin Temple that is open to foreigners? Thank you very much for your help